Imagine you and I go out to a restaurant. 

The waitress brings us our menus. Very effortlessly, you decide what you want to eat. When the waitress comes back to our table, you tell her what you have chosen. You hand her back the menu then you sit back and relax knowing that in a matter of time your meal will be brought to you. 

I, on the other hand, look through the menu excited by all the possibilities. Then I get frustrated because I can't make up my mind. When the waitress comes back I give her the menu and say, "You decide what I should eat. Just pick whatever you want and order it for me." 

You'd look at me as if I were crazy. "Wendy," you'd exclaim, "You can't be serious. What if she brings you something you dislike? What if she brings you one of the foods you are allergic to and you get sick? What if she can't make a decision and brings you nothing at all?" 

This situation isn't that unusual. If you think about it, we all do this repeatedly every day of our lives. Each day we weave our way through our jobs, our relationships, our entire life without knowing what we want. And if we don't know what we want, we become more than willing to let someone else decide for us. 

Getting what you want isn't the hard part. It's deciding what you want that is difficult. MIND MAGIC is about showing you how to figure out what you truly want and then how to go about getting it. 

BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELF 

There are three things that stop us from clearly deciding what we want in our lives. 

-Our pain from the past

-The fear of having to go through that pain again 

-The beliefs we have constructed to protect us from pain 

You don't need to be a slave to the past any longer. You can learn to understand and grow from your past hurts. And by changing your beliefs you can change your reality. 

How do we go about achieving this? First, take a deep breath and be open to the idea of being completely honest with yourself. I'll warn you now; taking an honest look at who you are could be the hardest thing you've ever had to do. 

But think of building a house. Think of honesty as the foundation to your dream home. If honesty isn't supporting you then denial will have taken its place. Honesty is like cement. Denial is like sand. Guess what will happen when it rains. :) 

There are benefits to being in denial. Denial doesn't hurt. Denial keeps us numb. Denial keeps us from having to take responsibility for our lives. Honesty takes time. Honesty takes courage. Honesty brings us peace of mind. Honesty or denial...you make the choice. 

Yes, we all want more money, more friends, a better relationship, more time to relax, and many other things. But if you strip away all of those wants there are two things we all want more than anything else in the world: 

-LOVE AND COMPASSION 

You cannot honestly love anything until you love yourself. Take the time to learn how to love yourself. Take the time to understand who you are. You have to know yourself before you can go beyond yourself.

INTRODUCE YOURSELF 

I want you to answer the following question. You can do this privately, or you can e-mail me with your answer. Your response will not be shown to anyone. 

What kind of person do you want to be? Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Relax your body and allow your imagination to eclipse your logic. Imagine yourself as the person you truly want to be. Imagine the energy you radiate. Describe how you want to affect the people who are in your life. Describe the inner qualities that are most important to you. What lasting impressions do you want to leave on people? 

Think of yourself as a painter. Think of your answer to the question above as your vision for what will appear on the canvas before you. Knowing the kind of person you want to be is the seed. All your needs and wants will grow upward and outward from the seed you have planted. 

In the next issue of MIND MAGIC we will go a step farther and learn more about the art of being honest within yourself. Slowly but surely we will create the true life you were meant to have.

WHO YOU ARE I would like to get to know you. If you would like, send me an e-mail and tell me: -3 things you are most proud of in your life 

-3 of your biggest dreams

FINAL THOUGHTS 

I recently did an interview with John Bradshaw, author of "Homecoming" and "Creating Love". 

This is one of the things he told me: 

"Everyone wants security. Everyone wants to have a relationship where they feel someone special loves them and they love someone special. Everyone wants to go to sleep at night never feeling like there isn't someone you significantly matter to. I think it's the deepest level of human need-the need to love someone." 

Never feel as though you are not loved. You are loved. 

Until next time...be well.

Wendy