CARING
You may not live the
life of a saint, but I genuinely believe you have every intention
of possessing the warmth, compassion, and love that saints are known for.
You may even underestimate how genuine
you really are.
When hopelessness seemingly
jumps out at you from everywhere, it begins to feel as though your core,
your true essence, is wearing away.
Don't be influenced by
the gloom that makes you question who you are. Don't let it stop you from
moving forward anymore. You know you. You know the truth. Don't be
afraid of the truth.
Know this:
When you do ANYTHING
that creates GOOD, JOY,
ACCEPTANCE, or UNDERSTANDING you have done something vital. You
have done something to be proud of.
The clothes, the cars,
the real estate, and the bank account do not make your life worthwhile.
It's the way you choose to bring goodness to the world that will give your
life the special meaning you need to feel complete.
Your feelings do not
reveal who you are.
It's not the things you
say you do that reveal who you are.
It's what you choose
to do with your life which reveal who and what you truly are.
When you choose to care,
the pain, the struggle, and the darkness will vanish.
You're sitting on a hard
wooden chair in a cold empty room. You are paralyzed by uncertainty.
A loud, angry voice booms all around you.
"Who do you think you are?" it taunts. "You're never good
enough," it criticizes.
The voice will get louder
as you lose yourself in the depths of self-loathing.
Take back your power.
Protect it without apology.
Get up from the chair.
Walk out of the room. Go for some ice cream.
STOP PUNISHING YOURSELF
Start to care for yourself.
Bring back the spirit of who you are.
CARING II
What is missing from
your life?
What is keeping you from
getting what you are missing? Chances are it's the fear of change.
Care for yourself by first being as welcoming of new things as you are
comfortable with the old things in your life.
Your heart knows your
passions. Trust your heart. Also, trust your mind. Your mind
will guide you through the uncertainty. Your heart will let you know
what is right for you.
You have the courage
to make it through.
Listen to your heart,
your mind, and your body.
Where is the pain coming
from?
Begin to make plans to
eliminate the things that bring about bad feelings.
It's time to set realistic
goals that will slowly, but surely, stop your inner battle. Be firm, but
be gentle.
-Pick three habits you
would like to change
-Write them down
-Create a plan of action
for each one
-Keep your goals in sight
-Reward yourself when
you witness a change
-and...
IF YOU NEED HELP...ASK
FOR IT
Caring for people in
your life is equally as important as caring for yourself. One focus is
not more important than the other. The trick is to balance the two.
Take ten minutes to sit
and reflect quietly.
Think of someone who
is important to you. Ask yourself what you could do to show that
person that you care for them. You have a million things to offer.
Be creative with the possibilities. Be funny, be unique, be
practical, be mushy...give yourself as you are.
NO GESTURE IS TOO SMALL
There are more than six
billion people on this planet. Even though you may not the chance
to perform acts of caring for everyone, there is still one simple, yet
so
desperately needed, thing you can do whenever you get the chance...
...YOU CAN LISTEN!!!!
When someone speaks to
you:
-clear your mind
-focus on what is being
said
-do not interrupt
-withhold judgements
until it is your turn to speak
-look for meanings and
feelings within the words
-be fair
FINAL THOUGHT
No matter what...
ALWAYS BE YOURSELF
(And if the words "but
I can't" or "I don't know who that is" or "it's so hard" come to mind,
e-mail me and we'll work things out together.)
Thank you.
Until next time...be well
Forever always,
Wendy