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MIND MAGIC Issue 11
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    "STOP SQUIRMING!" you whisper to
me in complete exasperation.
        We're sitting in a darkened movie theater.
        "I can't help it, " I explain. "This wool sweater
makes me uncomfortable. My skin is itchy."
        "Then why did you wear it?" you ask.
        "I wore this sweater because it's cold outside
and it's the only sweater I have. I hate wearing it, but
I have no choice. For now, I just have to put up with it."
        As I finish answering your question, a teenager walks down the aisle toward us. He's carrying a large container
of popcorn and a large container of Coke. We both move
our feet so he can get by. As he tries to get past me, the
teenager accidentally trips. Popcorn flies everywhere. His container of Coke spills all over the front of my sweater.
        You look at me and bite your lower lip to keep from
laughing. "Now you're sticky, wet, and itchy. How long are you going to put up with that?"

REALITY
        How often have you felt uncomfortable with your
entire life?
        There are always moments when you feel like you don't fit in. You feel as though things aren't exactly as they were meant to be. You look at your body, your relationships, and your home and sometimes you feel like your life, and everything in it, just isn't
flowing as you believe it was meant to.
        It hurts when it seems like your hands are tied and things can't change. It's scary when you believe things can change, but there are so many things to change that you don't even know where to begin.
        Reality is the best healer in the world.
        Reality brings harmony.
        Reality is what you are experiencing right now, right at this moment.
        Live in the moment. Be aware of the moment and I promise you everything will be OK.

        RIGHT NOW...you know enough.
        RIGHT NOW...you have enough.
        RIGHT NOW...you are enough.

        For you, thoughts of the past may stir up feelings of regret. Thoughts of the future may stir up feelings of fear. Both make you uneasy. Both make you unhappy.
        Bouncing from the past to the future isn't a fate you are destined or obligated to fulfill. It's a habit that can be changed.
        The past and the future are IDEAS.
        Chances are, all of your life you have been taught to live for ideas. You were not taught to live in the present.
        "What do you want to be when you grow up?" someone may have asked you when you were a child.
        How many people do you remember asking you, "Are you happy?"
        Do you know a person who is consumed with the memories of a past relationship or fantasies or finding their perfect partner, yet this same person couldn't describe to you how the chicken salad sandwich they just had for lunch tasted?
        Are you that kind of a person?
        Learn from the past, but don't BE the past.
        Plan for the future, but don't BE the future.

        The greatest benefit you will gain from living in the moment is that you will become aware of yourself.
        You shut all the doors. You close all the windows. You turn off all the lights. You sit in a darkened room feeling safe and sure that you have successfully
banished your "dark side".
        Becoming aware of who you are is like turning on a lamp in that darkened room. You don't have to hide in the darkness to avoid your darkness. There is nothing to be afraid of.
        For so long you've lived in fear of yourself. You've wondered and you've worried about your anger and your aggression. "Whatwould people think if they knew the real me?" you've asked yourself. "Would they still accept me if they knew I wasn't always such a nice person?"
        Who you are, including the good stuff and the bad, is beautiful. All one-of-a-kind things are.
        Begin to take yourself seriously. Begin to discover who you are. Treat your discoveries with respect.
        Believe it or not, no one can reject you.
        You only reject yourself.

LIFE PURPOSE
        What would you be like if you really accepted yourself? How would your life be different?
        If anything would be different, it would be that you would stop allowing yourself to be lead by blind fear. You would be in control. You would be unstoppable.
        We become what we resist. Imagine what you could become if you stop resisting.
        Have you eve noticed that you feel more vital and content when you know you are moving forward in your life? When you have a motive you feel more optimistic and more courageous. You have a reason to live.
        Become self-aware and you will find that motive. You will find your life's purpose.

        Finish this sentence:
        "I am..."
        Don't hesitate, don't block, don't judge, don't criticize. Just let the words come out.
        Are you kind? Are you curious? Are you nurturing?
        The words you chose to follow "I am..." are the seed of your life's purpose. Who you are should give you an idea of why you are here. Now you know what you are already doing. You know what you will continue to do from this moment on.
        Your life's purpose will be an unfolding discovery you make with your heart, not create with your mind.
        When you know what your purpose is don't let anything hold you back from doing your life's work. Commit to it. Commit to life.

        You have two constants in your life:
        REASONS and RESULTS
        Choose which one you would like more of.
        You've heard this a million times:
        "Don't wait until things are different. Change things now."
        It's honest, age-old advice. But, you don't have to take it if you don't want to.
        Consider this:
        "I don't have to do anything, and what I choose to do, I can do."
        Whatever decisions you make are yours. No apologies required.
        Remember, that more importantly than what you choose to do is what you learn from your choices.

FINAL THOUGHTS
In the next issue I am going to write about dreams and goals and how to set and achieve them. E-mail me and let me know what some of your goals are.
I ask because I want to share them with other MM readers. Sometimes we hold ourselves back from things because we think we are crazy/selfish/unworthy of
achieving success. I believe that if we know that we're not alone with our desires we will feel more confident about going after things. Please e-mail me with your comments.

A quote from the person I am currently obsessed with.

"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance."
-Oscar Wilde

Until next time...be well

Forever always,
Wendy