issue 13

MIND MAGIC Issue 13
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        What is stopping you?
        What is stopping you from being happy?
        What us stopping you from having
everything you've ever wanted?
        The answer...BRICKS.
        From the time you were born until this very moment, you have been collecting bricks. Every negative memory is a brick. Every negative thing anyone has ever said to you is a brick. Every fear, every feeling of uncertainty, and every excuse is a brick. Over the years your bricks have piled up and become a wall. The wall is so high that it may be impossible to see over.
        But you know what's behind the wall. Now it's time to go beyond it. Have faith. If you had the strength, the intelligence, and the patience to build the wall, then you have what it takes to tear it down.
        Do you want to tear down your wall?

DESERVING
        There's a nagging belief that keeps you from what you really want in your life. It's the deep-seated, burdening belief that you don't deserve to be happy.
        Feeling undeserving is an obstacle that has a way of hiding itself well. For you, it may be a belief that is so deeply buried inside that it has come to feel as normal as each sunrise.
        The belief that you are undeserving may have come from your childhood.
        Try this:
-Think of something you want. A new job, a new home, or a vacation, for example.

-Imagine you go to visit your father and you tell him about what it is you want. What is his response?
-Now imagine you then sit down alone with your mother. You also tell her about what you want. What is her response?
-Think about the messages you got from each one of your parents.
-Do you treat yourself the same way?
-Who gave you support?
-(now the big questions...) Did you find that you didn't like their response? Do you tell yourself the same things
they did?

        Before you can create change you have to convince yourself, and truly believe, that you are deserving of whatever it is you want to have.
        Look at your life. What you have convinced yourself you deserve you have brought into your life. Whether it be a little or a lot, you have, in your
possession, everything you believe you should have.
        Imagine your life as being like a balloon. It's time to take a deep breath and make that balloon bigger and grander than it has ever been.
        It is time for you to decide WHAT YOU REALLY WANT. It's time to let go of the hand belonging to the thought that convinces you that you deserve so little.
        You are not greedy.
        You are not selfish.
        You are not asking for too much.
        You are a human being who is trying to do the best he/she can to exist in the world and at the same time make a difference.

SUCCESS

        YOU ARE A SUCCESS WHEN YOU HAVE RISEN ABOVE FAILURE
        When you have done something, anything, that is bigger and greater than anything you have ever done in
your life, then you have succeeded.
        It is not important to succeed in the eyes of the world because many of those eyes are half-closed.
        It is not important to live by how the rest of the world defines success. You need to find your own special meaning to the word.
        What do you want to achieve?
        What will make you feel more alive?
        That is your success.

WHAT IS STOPPING YOU?

IS IT THE RULES?
        Throughout your life you have always seen rewards given to people who follow the rules.
        In our society rules are important. There's no doubt they keep you safe.
        But when it comes to your life, rules may have become sharp barbed-wire fences keeping your path narrow and leaving you with very few options.
        Rules can create predictable patterns in your life. Predictable patterns can create a comfort zone that may become hard to leave.
        When you feel it is time...break the patterns.
        Challenge the rules that hold you back.

IS IT BECAUSE OF CHANGE?
        Change happens in two ways:
        -either you choose to change because it feels good
        -or, you are forced to change
        YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM OF CIRCUMSTANCE
        You are riding your wave on your ocean. Flow with it. Stop fighting it. Enjoy it.

DO YOUR DREAMS SEEM UNREALISTIC?
        "Oh come on," says the voice of reason, "Be practical. That won't work."
        Oh yes it will...because anything you want is possible.
        Think about what it is you really want. Dream for a few minutes.
        Ask yourself...
        "What if..."
        "What if..."
        "What if..."
        LET YOURSELF REALLY LOOK AT ALL THE POSSIBILITIES!
        Don't throw any of your "What ifs..." away. Take your ideas and turn them into stepping stones that will lead you to your dream.

IS IT BECAUSE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE?
        Have you become too used to the "What is..." in your life? Have things become safe yet they don't satisfy you anymore?
        Ask yourself again...
        "What if..."
        "What if..."
        "What if..."

IS IT BECAUSE YOU'RE NOT SURE IF
WHAT YOU WANT IS RIGHT OR WRONG?
        Just like rules, you have been branded with the belief there is only one right answer.
        "The right answer is appropriate and everything else is wrong," you were probably taught.
        NO!!!
        There is more than one right answer.
        And you know what is right for you because you can feel it in your heart ALL THE TIME.

IS IT BECAUSE YOU MIGHT FAIL?
        This is the Law Of Life:
        "We must cover the same ground until our understanding concerning it is complete."
        This can't happen unless you succeed...and fail.
        Three facts on failure:
        -success and failure come from the same process
        -errors tell you when to change direction
        -mistakes are like a pinch on the butt...they remind you that you are human

CHANGES
If there are things in your life you feel you need to change, try this:

1. First recognize that what you have RIGHT NOW is trulywhat you want
2. Realize that if you are unhappy with something you have to stop giving it power over your life. When you continuously talk
and think about something that hurts you, you are keeping it alive.
3. Remind yourself that nothing is ever good or bad, right or wrong.
4. Select a replacement for whatever it is that is making you unhappy.
5. In as much detail as possible, imagine what you have chosen as a replacement. Imagine it as though it already exists.
6. Start putting a plan together to make the change happen.

        I promise you that one small change will lead to many.

        Make your ideas come to life.
        Write down your plan.
        Look in the mirror. There you will find all the courage you will need.
        Throw away your excuses.
        Be prepared for the unexpected emotional bruises. Strengthen your shield.
        Be persistent.
        REMEMBER...
        BE--DO--HAVE

FINAL THOUGHTS
"Self-trust is the first secret to success."
-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Until next time...be well

Forever always,
Wendy